Lately, the vast majority of the traffic on my blog has come as a result of people doing Google searches for Jon & Kate Plus 8. After last night, that number spiked even higher. With that in mind, I figured I’d share my two cents on last nights Season 5 premiere, since so many people that are finding this blog are looking for stuff on Jon and Kate.
The episode that aired last night was hard for me to watch. Very hard. The whole thing felt awkward and dramatic, and almost exploitative. I realize Jon and Kate are getting paid to do this show, as a result of that, should expect a certain level of media attention. Last night though, I couldn’t help but feel as though TLC was milking the personal trials of this family for all it was worth to them. I suppose by watching, I gave them exactly what they hoped for.
I will say this, unless you have been through a divorce, and tried to put the pieces of your life back together after one, you have no clue the ramifications of such a decision. People think it’s an easy clean break. Like ripping off a band-aid. It will hurt, but only for a second or two. You couldn’t be more wrong! The effects of divorce are deep, far reaching, and intense. It is not something you just get over. It’s not something you just move on from. It is something that shakes you to the very core of your being.
I understand all to well now, why God is not a big fan of divorce. I can’t help but think that it has less to do with the actual act of the divorce, and more to do with the hurt that it causes His people… those of us whom He loves so deeply. Seeing us live through a divorce has to break His heart as He watches the way it breaks ours.
I don’t know what is next for Jon and Kate. It wasn’t made very clear, although I certainly got the feeling like it was over. For their sake, and the sake of their children, I pray it doesn’t end that way. I tried everything I could think of to keep my marriage from ending. If I had to do it all over again, I’d try even harder. I can promise you this, I’ve learned a lot of lessons along the way, and you can be darn sure that divorce is something I will never go through again!
Watching Jon and Kate last night brought back too many memories and hurts. A husband and wife that can’t talk to each other. A husband and wife who seemingly tried to avoid each other. A husband and wife who really wouldn’t even look at each other. My heart broke all over again, because I remember what all of those things felt like.
I am not here to judge either of them. It’s certainly none of my business what either of them may, or may not have done. That is, as Jon stated last night, a personal, private, family matter. I agree. All I will say is this… people need to stop judging them. People need to stop lining up to be the first to cast stones. Focus some of your attention toward condemning Jon and Kate on your own life. Are there areas where you can improve? How about your own relationships? What can you do today in your own relationships to help insure that you never get to a place where Jon and Kate find themselves? Wouldn’t that seem like a more productive use of your time and energy?
I truly hope that Jon and Kate are able to get some counseling, and work through whatever the issues are that are infecting their marriage. I hope that together, they will work to overcome their trials. Divorce, no matter how easy or inviting an option as it may seem, honestly isn’t worth it!
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I was going to ask if you had watched it and not only did you watch, you already blogged about it. I found it so awful to watch…the whole thing is just sad and even sadder that it is being broadcast for the entire world to view.
Posted on May 26th, 2009 at 15:32
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